When I was a child, because of my impulsive character, I was angry at everything. In most cases, after these incidents, I felt ashamed and I tried to console those I have hurt.
One day, my teacher saw me apologizing after an explosion of anger and handed me a sheet of plain paper and said:
Knead this paper now!
With fear, I obeyed and made a ball with it. The teacher instructed me to straighten the paper as it was before. Obviously, I could not do that. The paper was now full of wrinkles.
The teacher then told me: “The hearts of men are like that piece of paper. The impression left on them will be hard to iron out just as it is hard to erase these wrinkles."
When I feel like getting angry, I remember that crumpled paper. The impression left on people is impossible to erase. When we hurt someone with our actions or our words, we just want to fix the error, but it’s too late ….
Someone once told me: “Speak only when your words can be as gentle as silence. “
We will always be responsible for our own actions. We have the power to control how we feel. We can either choose to respond in a calm way or retaliate in an angry aggressive way.
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The remedy to calming one’s anger.
It is advisable to do Wudhu when one becomes angry. This will take a person’s mind off the matter which has angered him & the use of water will also bring some relief.
Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said: “Anger is from Shaitaan and Shaitaan was created from fire. Fire is extinguished by water so when you become angry, do Wudhu”
(Abu Dawood, Hadith #: 4784, Narrated by Atiyyah)